“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” — Benjamin Spock
Ever wondered what others will think about you before taking a life decision? Keep Reading……
In our head sits an advisory committee which assists us in judging the lives of others. And this is often savoured. We forget this advisory committee is to be used for our own good. We have all been there. We have all at some point in our lives judged others. In fact, it’s a part of our daily lives. Instead of thinking deeply about a person’s situation or decision, we rush to conclusions.
I used to be like this. I would never consider thinking from a different perspective and simply start judging on the basis of knowledge I possess. One fine day, I realized that knowledge is always limited. Therefore, I tried changing this attitude of mine but soon came to realise another fact- “It’s ignoble to judge the lives of others but it is the very nature of humans”.
Later, I discovered that being judged isn’t a problem but being affected by the negative thoughts of others is absolute dross. — Tweet This
“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul”. — William Ernest Henley
Today, It doesn’t matter what others think about me or even if they alienate my decisions. I am 100% in charge of my life. I know myself, my skills, my talents, my limitations and my goals better than anyone else in this universe. So, if words of someone else have a negative impact on my life, attitude or decisions, I am the one responsible for the added hurdles in my life.
We live our lives and we face the consequences of our decisions. The people who influence our life decisions are not the ones who face the consequences. Hence, We need shields to thwart negativity.
If we want to feel motivated to achieve our goals, 3 traits will do the trick. But they come with a bold disclaimer which statesyou are an intelligent person who knows what is right and what is wrong for himself/herself better than anyone else and thinks like a realist. Don’t care about what others say but always pay attention to every word your parents say. We often easily get irritated by the things our parents repeatedly say to us. Truth be told, they are the only ones who actually wish for our well being. They are overprotective only because they are madly in love with us. Also, never ignore the words of teachers because they speak by experience. At last but not the least, consider the knowledge provided by wise men and philosophers.
All the people who don’t believe in us and our goals must be rebuffed.
Traits to use as a shield:-
- Infinite Self-Respect
Don’t get me wrong. It sounds worse than it is. Bottom 2 are the traits no one appreciates in a person. Neither are they any good. But if used well here’s how they help:-
- We must never run out of our self-respect. It’s the foundation of who we are. It’s the pillar that holds our virtue up high. Self-Respect keeps us going and gives us a reason perform well.
- A stubborn person sticks to his decision regardless of what others think or say. Being a bit stubborn will help us stand up for what we believe in. A stubborn attitude towards negativity can help us outgrow useless critics.
- Shamelessness will protect us from having a negative impact on emotions. It will extirpate demotivated core of our soul. A shameless person can freely take decisions which might not be common or usually supported. Only because no one does it, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t either.
“We must never forget our goals and keep trying to achieve them. The day we accomplish those goals and succeed, the world will concede why we did it differently.”
“No one will believe in you until you do” — Robin Sharma
Everyone’s definition of success is different. Maybe others will never understand our goals because their beliefs are not as ours. We must centralize our focus on our definition of success and work on it. Listen to wise men, listen to your parents, listen to your hearts and decide what’s best. Always remember that stubbornness and shamelessness are only needed to survive the negativity. Don’t be mean.
Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else. — Margaret Mead